Dear Men,

I don't think I'm giving away any gender secrets here when I say that we women Want To Know. Know what? Doesn't matter. We just want to know. Want to be in the loop. And not only do we want to know, we want to talk about it, too.

There are some things, however, that no matter how much we might say we want to know, should really stay on a strict Need-To-Know basis.

Say, for instance, that you and your girlfriend are talking about tattoos, body piercings, etc. Just small talk. You are under no obligation to tell your girlfriend that your ex, who has 2 grown children and is 20 years older than your girlfriend, has a belly ring because she is a competitive athlete who wears belly-baring tanks.